It’s over at Hargun’s #4

Over at Hargun's

Sat Sri Akal! A warm welcome to you all on this chilly winter evening. OAH is finally back  and it’s a girls’ day out this time.

We all in the blogging world know a person through their blog or the interaction with them in the comments section. But many times we form a bond with these people, we often look forward to seeing them in the blogging world and then we realize we have found a great friend! Or else, there may be personalities whose works are a big inspiration to you. Though virtual, these friendships and fan followings are real. And so here’s OAH, where we more than just meet and greet a fellow blogger, we see some unknown aspects of their life and we have loads of fun doing that!

Now, I hope you all are tucked tight in the blankets because if you are not, you just might forget to, once you start reading head. So my audience, hold on your thoughts, wrap the blanket tight, focus on the screen and welcome this month’s guest blogger at Living the Dream – Ms. Ameena K. G. author of the blog ‘Randoms by a random

I first met Ameena when the episode #1 of the series was published, and after almost a year, I’m here having the same person as my guest for the evening. Though, we did not greet each other at that point of time, we did get to know there’s a person out there in a corner of blogosphere worth knowing. And all that I know of Ameena, she is fun loving  but reflective at the same time. You will find great depth in her poems, which are often inspired from real life emotions you can relate to. She hails from Nigeria and is currently in Fourth year of her medicals. She is yet to decide her area of specialization, two more years of clinical duty and one year of house job should do the trick, she says. An interesting thing about her is that though she does not listen to music, She loves Indian movies and Zee TV ‘s soaps!  And rest about her will be apparent from our chit chat below. Let’s go!

 Hi Ameena!  A hearty welcome to you at my place.

Like me, My readers are intrigued to know that  you hail from Nigeria and surprisingly know Hindi. And on top of it, you watch Bollywood movies and zee TV’s soaps of all! Please elaborate on this mind boggling desi- firangi connection before we proceed further.

Hahaha, well, it was just something I grew up doing, part of the daily routine of our house I guess. After the daily activities, school and whatnot, 6-6:30, saat Phere would be airing, after that, banoo mein Teri dulhaan, then mamta and kasamh se… It was kind of a normal routine. I’ve always been fascinated with the Indian language and culture; as a kid, I used to think I’d marry an Indian and even question my mum, asking how sure she was our ancestry lineage wasn’t from there; and so that’s probably what drove my desire to learn the language.

I can’t exactly say when I started to understand it, I just realised that some days, I’d watch movies in Hindi without English subtitles and would understand what they were saying. Also, had a small jotter, where I’d jot down difficult words.

Haha..these have been a part of my childhood too and I’m pleasantly surprised to know Indian soaps and movies  are popular in Nigeria too! Now that you have mentioned, I can recall watching some of these with my mum 😀

And I have learnt you have been very mischievous child, just like me. I have pranked almost everyone- my family, my cousins, my schoolmates and I feel nostalgic thinking how the class of fifty would to accompany me in the adventures. But at home, being the eldest child in the family, I was always discouraged from these harmless pranks. Elders need to be responsible you see. But You are the middle Child and I’m curious to know how was it growing up sandwiched between an elder and a younger sibling. And yes, I’m expecting it from the angle of that Ameena who lived life carelessly, breaking articles at the drop of a hat and pranking the unsuspicious siblings and cousins 😉

I would like to say it was “amazing” but let’s face it, anyone who has siblings knows that’s an understatement. Being the middle child is kind of like being in any other position but first and last. I mean, first-borns got such high respect and responsibility; last-borns get away with things other siblings wouldn’t even dream of doing. But then again, being a middle child has got its pros.It meant when my two older siblings were tired of playing with me, their “baby sis”, I could coerce the younger ones to.It meant whenever I did something wrong, it was automatically blamed on my elder ones cause they were supposed to be the responsible ones keeping me in check.

It was being compared at school to my other siblings and seeing an expression on the teachers face which clearly translates into “Can you really be their sister?”

Being the middle child was having the circle come back around to bite me, in the sense of being blamed for my younger ones atrocities.

It was being able to do and act as I pleased in high school because I had a big brother.

It was teaming up with my siblings when our parents weren’t around to do the “unthinkables”. That way, whatever mishap happened, we were all in it together.But the best part about being a middle child is after having a long day of keeping the younger ones in check, I could crawl up to my older siblings and be sure to get babied  and placated.

Aww, Childhood is always beautiful especially when siblings are around. I would love to see our Little Ameena with her siblings now! Please share some photographs of yours.

I’m the smallest girl in the first pic. In the second pic, I’m the girl without glasses, those are my siblings.

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Ameena, in the first one, your big black eyes look so inquisitive. And you are five..Oh, it must be a tough for your mum handling so many pranksters. But I’m sure you guys must be enjoying to the hilt. No place for boredom 🙂

Okay, now I have planned something exciting. I suggest you take a deep breath, and have that glass of water beforehand and be ready because I’m going to shoot some rapid fire questions now! I hope you are all set…here you go!

Q1. One thing you absolutely can’t resist?

A cup of black coffee. I don’t remember ever saying no to coffee.

I was expecting that. I know coffee is your happy drink 🙂

Q2. If your cat could speak, what would you want it to say?

Hahaha, I’d want him to sing “soft kitty” to me before going to bed.

He he..now here’s the million dollar question: If your swayamvar was to be organized , which three Bollywood actors would you like to invite as participants?

Shahrukh Khan, Imran Khan, Varun dhawan

I see you are well versed with the oldest and the latest actors. Big Bollywood Buff huh? But I’m surprised there’s no Ranbir Kapoor in the list.  :p

Q4. An idea that changed your life?

Writing! The decision to start writing has changed my life in the most amazing way.

Yes, I can imagine. Now here comes the last question:

Q5. One illegal thing you have done in your life ?

Illegal? Well let see, I actually have to think for this. And No, this doesn’t mean I am a goody two shoes. It’s just, a few of my respected family members might be reading this and you know “what happens in Vegas, stays on Vegas”.

Haha..! Yeah.  So lets mark this as the end of rapid fire round. You played pretty well, Ameena. 

Okay, now going over to the blogging aspect, You have been actively promoting the mental heath cause. As you know, it is very important for a person to come up and be vocal about his/her mental health issues so that others could be benefited as well. How and when did your realize this needed to be taken up? 

BeforeMental illness was an alien topic to me. I was groomed to believe that things are clear cut. If a person acts crazy, then it’s due to Jinn Possession or substance abuse; What’s Depression?! It’s just laziness; OCD was a person being weird or a neat freak… Turns out that, was a narrow minded perspective.

There was a period, when I was 15, it was during my “Disney phase”. The Internet was circulating with the news that Demi Lovato had checked into a treatment facility after she’d snapped and was diagnosed with Bulimia and Bipolar disorder. I couldn’t understand how someone who appeared so perfect could actually be struggling. But more importantly, I didn’t even know what Bulimia and BD were. That was the beginning of my relationship with mental health.

I remember staying up late at night, just reading and researching on the various mental disorders and trying to understand the pathology and physiology behind it, it gave me answers to so many emotions, behaviors and helped me to view my surroundings through colored lenses. It wasn’t until I came to university that the reality of stigma dawned on me; People openly condemn mental illness. It’s heartbreaking, especially when there’s someone within an earshot who’s struggling.

To me, speaking about mental illness is something I consider normal. Everyone deserves a voice and no one has the right to dispel another’s illness just because they don’t understand it. The statistics is alarming and I find it illogical that one in four people just “can’t get over it” hence they are depressed. I’ve got five siblings and I want to be someone they can talk to about these things without feeling like they’d be judged or disbelieved.

Yes, I couldn’t agree more with you. People should support such person than ridiculing him/her saying its just laziness or their negative attitude. You are doing a great job supporting the cause. Keep it up!

Now as we approach the end, it’s a custom here that Every guest at OAH leaves his/her imprint behind – and since you are an awesome flash fiction writer, why not grace one of my clicks by basing a story on it? I know your love for roses and I think the picture I clicked  of roses will be perfect. What do you say ?

Ofcourse,  Here you go!

                                              FLASH FICTION:  Say I do…
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“You see that rose plant, with its bloomed flower?” Jason asked, pointing at the direction of the growing plants, “that’s me. All cards on display, ready to hit the mark.”

Leila rolled her eyes thinking, just when she thought he couldn’t get anymore vain.

“But you”, he continued, clearly oblivious to her reactions. “You’re like the other rose plant who keeps her flower hidden, only to bloom in adversity. Constantly on the defensive, with your thorns on your sleeves to push people away. You hide the rose you are behind your thorns”

“But you know what I think?” He asked looking towards her direction as she avoided his gaze, “I think Leila jaan, you’re just waiting for someone who’d care enough to look past the thorns.”

Jason had his perks like every other person but when it came down to it, he was an honest man. “Maybe it’s time to take a plunge into marriage again”, Leila pondered as she watched his silhouette fade away. “Maybe it’s time to say I do”.

Beautiful! I love your choice of names too. To me, it suggests that these two are from different backgrounds just as their personalities are. But as they say opposites attract, I think they will do just fine together. That’s what true love is, isn’t it? Bringing the best out in each other.

And thanks a lot for this lovely story. I’m glad you accepted to be a part of this event. It was pleasure working  with you on this.

Now my loyal folks, I thank you to for  accompanying us till the end . Its time to pack up. But I’ll be back next month- same time – same place, with a new guest to introduce to you. Till then, stay tuned – keep blogging!

Hasta la vista!

PS: You can catch on the previous episodes here.

37 comments

  1. trablogger · January 24, 2016

    Good to see your new guest. I have met and talked with Ameena here and there in this blog world. Good to know more about her. Especially to know that she learned Hindi! That is so cool.

    Liked by 2 people

    • Hargun Wahi · January 25, 2016

      I’m glad to know you knew about her beforehand. And yes, I too was surprised to find out she knew Hindi.
      It’s a small world indeed. Leveraging technology has proved quite useful in that 🙂

      I Hope you enjoyed reading the installment. Thanks a lot!

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Ameena k.g · January 25, 2016

    Reblogged this on Randoms by a Random and commented:
    It’s both a pleasure and an honor to be interviewed by the wonderful Hargun Wahi. I had the best time, chatting with her and trying to make this work despite time differences.
    Please do check it out 😊

    Liked by 3 people

    • Hargun Wahi · January 25, 2016

      I hope you liked the final outcome Ameena ! We made it finally 😀
      Thank you for all the kind words.
      Keep smiling !

      Liked by 1 person

      • Ameena k.g · January 27, 2016

        Liked it? I loved it! It such a pleasure to be featured here Hargun. Thanks again

        Liked by 1 person

        • Hargun Wahi · January 27, 2016

          😀
          I’m glad !
          And the feedback you were awaiting from my side, I hope you read all that in the post 😉
          And yes, do check the comments below, you have a friend request 😉

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  3. Faraday's Candle · January 25, 2016

    You did such a great job with this.
    You treated this interview with dignity.
    Ameena’s story is so engaging.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hargun Wahi · January 25, 2016

      Thanks you so much 🙂
      This means a lot ! And I’m delighted to know you enjoyed reading the post. Thanks for coming over too!
      Have a great week ahead 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  4. himanju23 · January 25, 2016

    Lovely post dear 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Aadhirai · January 25, 2016

    I loved this chit chat very much and you had me hooked for this with the intro you gave in the previous post.. Thanks for introducing a blogger, I’m yet to become friends with.. Guess it would happen soon.. 😉

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hargun Wahi · January 26, 2016

      Oh I’m so glad. I’m sure you will be friends with her soon. Want me to pass on the friend request? 😉
      I’ll be happy to introduce 😀 and Ameena will be so happy to meet you, like I was 🙂

      Thanks a lot for your lovely comment Aadhirai.

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      • Aadhirai · January 26, 2016

        I already started following her.. Even before commenting here.. 😀 😀

        Thanks for the offer.. 🙂 I too think we would be friends soon.. Though I’m yet to read any posts of her.. 😉

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  6. Pratik Akkawar · January 26, 2016

    Yet another episode of OAH! Good to see you doing it consistently Hargun and good to know Ameena! Nice work. 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

    • Hargun Wahi · January 26, 2016

      Thank you 🙂
      I’m glad you liked the fourth installment too 🙂
      Ameena is a great person to know and doing this interview across the borders had its own fun.

      Liked by 1 person

      • Pratik Akkawar · January 26, 2016

        I can imagine the fun and am glad that you invited her. Good job, best luck for the future episodes. Good night tc! 😊

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  7. Saiz · January 26, 2016

    This was one of the greats I had read till date. It was so wonderful that I came back thrice at it to comprehend it completely and then leave a comment.
    Sorry for the late response. I know you won’t mind. You’re so nice. You see. 😛
    Well, you did a pretty good job interviewing. It really was a nice read. 🙂

    Liked by 2 people

    • Hargun Wahi · January 26, 2016

      I’m glad to know that 🙂
      Came back at it thrice, well, that’s an honor.Thanks a lot for your interest in the series. Were you able to guess her from the intro in the previous post?
      Also,I’m curious did you read it in installments ? ;p
      And yes, I maybe be nice but I don’t let anyone take undue advantage of that either 😉

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      • Saiz · January 27, 2016

        No, I had no idea. So, I just skimmed and read the questionnaires and left.
        The last part is making me afraid now. OMG I’m shivering. 😛 😀

        Liked by 1 person

  8. Prakash Hegade · January 27, 2016

    Well, She is one of my favorite blogger. I was so glad to see this post. Thank you Hargun. This sure is the best way to know the blogger. Only thing i knew was she is a medical student. Rest all the things came to me as a surprise. Loved and enjoyed reading this post. Brilliant! 🙂

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    • Hargun Wahi · January 27, 2016

      I’m delighted to know you enjoyed it 🙂
      Its a pleasure always to bring an episode of this series. And doing one with Ameena was a different experience all together. The different time zones we lived in, her and my preoccupations – all had its effects. But we made it in the end 😀
      And for me to have a girl my age as a guest was even more fun and different of course :p

      Thanks a lot for this lovely comment,all the appreciation and your support to the series. I’m glad you came over 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

      • Prakash Hegade · January 28, 2016

        I could all get that from reading the episode. Kudos to your match and work timings. And it’s great when it turns out a beautiful episode like this! 🙂 This is my so far favorite! 🙂

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        • Hargun Wahi · January 28, 2016

          To be frank, I was a bit apprehensive but now I think the non serious questions work better 😉
          And I don’t know whether to be happy or sad on ‘favourite’. You have seen this series from the inception. And the mode and way its conducted is still the same and so are the efforts. Though I’m trying to improve each time and I’m glad its bearing results 🙂
          Thank a lot calling it beautiful. That means a lot 🙂

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  9. Upen Reddy · March 13, 2016

    This episode has come out so we’ll!! Sabar ka phal meetha hotha hey kinda.:D. Quite an engaging interview. She knows Hindi… that’s amazing. Rock on:)

    Cheers!!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hargun Wahi · March 13, 2016

      I’m glad you liked it Upen. It was a pleasure (as always)doing an episodes of OAH. Hope to bring you another one soon. 😉

      Thanks a lot for all the support 🙂
      Happy Sunday !

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  10. Madeeha · April 8, 2016

    Very well crafted questions Hargun. I really enjoyed the way you have conducted this interview
    Amazing (:

    Liked by 1 person

    • Hargun Wahi · April 8, 2016

      Thanks a lot Madeeha. I’m glad to know you enjoyed the interview. Its always a pleasure to connect with fellow bloggers from around the world.
      Have a great day!

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