I totally hate these baseless comparisons.
“Have you seen how good he’s at it? WHY CAN’T you be like that?”
Oh god..! There must be many more versions of saying that …but you get the idea, don’t you? Why do people compare someone with others. Its simply not done, because we all are unique; something just us, which nobody can copy or possess.So why say this to any innocent child? What I have seen in my life is that sometimes people are never satisfied with the gifts god has graced upon them. My aunt ,whenever I meet her, says the same (of course in a different version) to her all rounder daughter .What really saddened me once was her reaction to a hard-earned achievement I shared with her. Instead of congratulating me, she was like-‘Why don’t you make her like you. Teach her something!’ Here, I just hope that my cousin doesn’t start harboring hate for me resulting from constant reminders from her parents.
I agree that sometimes these comparisons are needed to motivate, but yes, they should be limited to that, to the extent it’s are harmless. But constantly subjecting someone to this could lead he/she harboring feelings like jealousy ,hatred and on top of it- lowered self esteem. By this,You stop believing in yourself. You degrade your worth. And this is a stumbling block to developing a vibrant, pleasing personality. And where would an emotion like jealousy take anyone? Ok, that person maybe better . Its simply fine-its their talent. Be happy for them and try to absorb whatever good traits you can from them. I think we can make more bucks that way, than harboring negative energy. So why not try and make world a beautiful place by concentrating on our betterment than plotting someone else’s downfall. There is definitely something we are exceptionally good at! The need is to recognize it and hone it .Of course, this is something which is going to give long term gains, isn’t it?
Have a good day!
Hargun 🙂
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I agree! comparisons only bring out hatred (like you say they are to motivate) but once you think from the point of view of the person being compared (in a negative way), its like expecting an apple to taste like an orange.
You have a good way of expressing your point. Keep it up! And remember, everyone is unique, like a snowflake 😀
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Wow..you too expressed yourself beautifully! Yes, you are definitely right…how can an apple taste like an orange!? 😀
Its Nice to hear from you ! Happy blogging 🙂
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Thank you ! 🙂
Happy blogging to you too 😀
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“But constantly subjecting someone to this could lead he/she harboring feelings like jealousy ,hatred and on top of it- lowered self esteem.”
Too Gud Hargun!
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I’m glad you liked and agreed with it. thank you.
but one complaint:where are your assignments..haven’t seen them pop up lately 😛 ?
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I”m having a bit problem with Internet lady! It’s a festival (Sankranthi) going on here for which I’m off to my village! There is no net connection! I’m managing comments with cell phone!
Are you keeping up with 101?
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good dedication then! koi baat nai..You just missed 1-2 posts. Yes,I’m trying to do everything I can manage!
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‘koi baat nai’ you know Hindi?
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LOL…Try pronouncing my name in hindi..you’ll know! :p
yes, I know punjabi as well 😛
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Very well written Hargun. Most parents forget that: Comparisons are like punctuation marks. While we will be tempted to use them wherever possible, they will be effective only when used wherever necessary.
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I must say you are very right! they should be used sparingly.
thank you.
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Wondering how you were doing!
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You know what…I simply love it when you surprise me out of the blue with your visits..!
And I’m all good..how are you doing neighbor? 😉
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Wonderfully. Hoping for joy & beauty in your life.
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THANKS DEAR….stay blessed 🙂
happy blogging !
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Ha ha.. Every one is unique and of their own kind.
I guess this will take a generation to change!
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And change starts from one’s own home!
And I think the motive behind such comparisons is ofcourse the betterment of the child, but I guess parents should adopt other creative approaches so that the child is motivated from within & himself wants to work towards his betterment/ higher goals.
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Totally agree! Something which our generation would definitely pick up! I guess!
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Hope so!
That would be a welcoming change 🙂
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Nicely written. It reminds me of the famous saying: “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
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Exactly! That saying sums it all up nicely 🙂
Thanks for your kind words Shreya 🙂
I’m glad you stopped by . Good day!
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True. Life isn’t a competition and everyone is gifted. 🙂
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Couldn’t agree more!
Thanks a lot for stopping by 🙂
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