I totally hate these baseless comparisons.

“Have you seen how good he’s at it? WHY CAN’T you be like that?”

Oh god..! There must be many more versions of saying that …but you get the idea, don’t you? Why do people compare someone with others. Its simply not done, because we all are unique; something just us, which nobody can copy or possess.So why say this to any innocent child? What I have seen in my life is that sometimes people are never satisfied with the gifts god has graced upon them. My aunt ,whenever I meet her, says the same (of course in a different version) to her all rounder  daughter .What really saddened me once was her reaction to a hard-earned achievement I shared with her. Instead of congratulating me, she was like-‘Why don’t you make her like you. Teach her something!’ Here, I just hope that my cousin doesn’t start harboring hate for me resulting from constant reminders from her parents.

I agree that sometimes these comparisons are needed to motivate, but yes, they should be limited to that, to the extent it’s are harmless. But constantly subjecting someone to this could lead he/she harboring feelings like jealousy ,hatred and on top of it- lowered self esteem. By this,You stop believing in yourself. You degrade your worth. And  this is a stumbling block to developing a vibrant, pleasing personality. And where would an emotion like jealousy take anyone? Ok, that person maybe better . Its simply fine-its their talent. Be happy for them and try to absorb whatever good traits you can from them. I think we can make more bucks that way, than harboring negative energy. So why not try and make world a beautiful place by concentrating on our betterment than plotting someone else’s downfall. There is definitely something we are exceptionally good at! The need is to recognize it and hone it .Of course, this is something which is going to give long term gains, isn’t it?

Have a good day!

Hargun 🙂

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  1. lilypup · January 20, 2015

    Great start.Loved your header photo. Keep going…you’re doing great. http://lilypupslife.wordpress.com/

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  2. littlesnowflake · January 20, 2015

    I agree! comparisons only bring out hatred (like you say they are to motivate) but once you think from the point of view of the person being compared (in a negative way), its like expecting an apple to taste like an orange.
    You have a good way of expressing your point. Keep it up! And remember, everyone is unique, like a snowflake 😀

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    • Hargun Wahi · January 20, 2015

      Wow..you too expressed yourself beautifully! Yes, you are definitely right…how can an apple taste like an orange!? 😀
      Its Nice to hear from you ! Happy blogging 🙂

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  3. littlesnowflake · January 21, 2015

    Thank you ! 🙂
    Happy blogging to you too 😀

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  4. Don't Get Wasted · January 22, 2015

    “But constantly subjecting someone to this could lead he/she harboring feelings like jealousy ,hatred and on top of it- lowered self esteem.”
    Too Gud Hargun!
    Thumbs Up!

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    • Hargun Wahi · January 22, 2015

      I’m glad you liked and agreed with it. thank you.
      but one complaint:where are your assignments..haven’t seen them pop up lately 😛 ?

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      • Don't Get Wasted · January 22, 2015

        I”m having a bit problem with Internet lady! It’s a festival (Sankranthi) going on here for which I’m off to my village! There is no net connection! I’m managing comments with cell phone!
        Are you keeping up with 101?

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        • Hargun Wahi · January 22, 2015

          good dedication then! koi baat nai..You just missed 1-2 posts. Yes,I’m trying to do everything I can manage!

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          • Don't Get Wasted · January 22, 2015

            ‘koi baat nai’ you know Hindi?

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            • Hargun Wahi · January 22, 2015

              LOL…Try pronouncing my name in hindi..you’ll know! :p
              yes, I know punjabi as well 😛

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  5. yogeshramgopal · January 22, 2015

    Very well written Hargun. Most parents forget that: Comparisons are like punctuation marks. While we will be tempted to use them wherever possible, they will be effective only when used wherever necessary.

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  6. Faraday's Candle · February 19, 2015

    Wondering how you were doing!

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  7. Prakash Hegade · May 5, 2015

    Ha ha.. Every one is unique and of their own kind.
    I guess this will take a generation to change!

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    • Hargun Wahi · May 5, 2015

      And change starts from one’s own home!
      And I think the motive behind such comparisons is ofcourse the betterment of the child, but I guess parents should adopt other creative approaches so that the child is motivated from within & himself wants to work towards his betterment/ higher goals.

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  8. Shreya Khandelwal · May 10, 2015

    Nicely written. It reminds me of the famous saying: “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

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    • Hargun Wahi · May 10, 2015

      Exactly! That saying sums it all up nicely 🙂
      Thanks for your kind words Shreya 🙂
      I’m glad you stopped by . Good day!

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  9. ShethP · May 11, 2015

    True. Life isn’t a competition and everyone is gifted. 🙂

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