I totally hate these baseless comparisons.
“Have you seen how good he’s at it? WHY CAN’T you be like that?”
Oh god..! There must be many more versions of saying that …but you get the idea, don’t you? Why do people compare someone with others. Its simply not done, because we all are unique; something just us, which nobody can copy or possess.So why say this to any innocent child? What I have seen in my life is that sometimes people are never satisfied with the gifts god has graced upon them. My aunt ,whenever I meet her, says the same (of course in a different version) to her all rounder daughter .What really saddened me once was her reaction to a hard-earned achievement I shared with her. Instead of congratulating me, she was like-‘Why don’t you make her like you. Teach her something!’ Here, I just hope that my cousin doesn’t start harboring hate for me resulting from constant reminders from her parents.
I agree that sometimes these comparisons are needed to motivate, but yes, they should be limited to that, to the extent it’s are harmless. But constantly subjecting someone to this could lead he/she harboring feelings like jealousy ,hatred and on top of it- lowered self esteem. By this,You stop believing in yourself. You degrade your worth. And this is a stumbling block to developing a vibrant, pleasing personality. And where would an emotion like jealousy take anyone? Ok, that person maybe better . Its simply fine-its their talent. Be happy for them and try to absorb whatever good traits you can from them. I think we can make more bucks that way, than harboring negative energy. So why not try and make world a beautiful place by concentrating on our betterment than plotting someone else’s downfall. There is definitely something we are exceptionally good at! The need is to recognize it and hone it .Of course, this is something which is going to give long term gains, isn’t it?
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